Complete by Caitlin was born out of my own journey from self-sabotage to self love (#realtalk itās still a work in progress and always will be)
I used to look around at my life and I hate what I saw. Toxic men, no money, sh*tty friends, poor health and a boring AF job.ā£
I believed that happy and successful people who had their sh*t together deserved a better life than me ā they were smarter, prettier, wealthier.
And when I started to practice what I was learning, my life radically changed.
What I came to realise was that my sh*tty life? It was mine because I had created it.
And when I started seeing myself differently, started choosing myself in small ways, everything shifted.
And because I didnāt think I was worthy of love and respect so I treated myself badly.
I drank and ate junk food (a lot), did drugs, stayed in toxic relationships and I had no boundaries with myself or with others. I felt out of control of my emotions, my thoughts and my behaviours.
I wanted to escape. I wanted better for myself. I wanted to feel healthy and strong, to have a great job, supportive partner, amazing friendships and to feel completely in love with my life.
I set goals for myself and started new habits. But I struggled to keep them up. I knew what I needed to do but nothing stuck. I kept making promises to myself only to break them. I was trapped in a negative cycle of setting unrealistic expectations and beating myself up when I couldnāt live up to them.
At the same time I was working in the fitness industry, and I started to see that the challenges my clients had with getting healthy didnāt really have anything to do with food or exercise. It was all about mindset ā how they felt about themselves and whether they believed they deserved the results they wanted. How other areas of their life would drive them to make sh*tty decisions, especially when they were staying in toxic relationships, had a stressful job or were living up to the unrealistic expectations society had placed on them.
Something clicked then and I went deep into researching the mindset stuff that lies behind the habits and behaviours we want to change in our lives.
What I didnāt know is that no one really has their sh*t together, no matter what it looks like from the outside.
Now I lead other womxn to have better beliefs, make better choices and live better lives.